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Post by Big Guy on Feb 3, 2013 15:11:03 GMT -6
sorry to bring probs here. ddint know he would follow me from forum to forum PMs work great, why would you post something like that ?
Maybe because it's true? You can choose to identify with it, or play the victim and use it for sympathy. You know my wife really appreciates it if I tell her something doesn't look good on her, when most women would be offended. She would rather hear the truth and not go out looking bad in an outfit, than me trying to patronize her. While you might not realize it, your aggressiveness is a symptom of your psychosis, and so is the manner in which you treat your cats, and there are probably many other signs and symptoms in your life that you just don't realize. I'm not attacking you, I'm trying to make you see what others already do. You know life doesn't treat one person better than another. Life treats everyone the same, and there is no bad luck in life. There are only choices, and people make choices based on a lot of different factors and variables in their life. I have an old saying when dealing with my children that goes like this: People are victims of their circumstances -- circumstances are given to you -- conscience decisions change circumstances. They all know it by heart. People make decisions in life, animals don't. Yes, I can see you have had a hard life... there's no question about that. But let me ask you a question; if this were 1985, what would you think about the woman you now look at in the mirror every day? The answer to that question is going to be personal, just for you. So to follow up, why do you think you have had such a hard life? Any first year college psyc student in their Human growth and development class can tell you! It's because of a trauma(s) that created an emotional wound(s) that you didn't know how to deal with. Choices were made, whether conscience or subconscious or even out of necessity matters not. Choices that forced you make decisions that created even more emotional scars, compounding your "bad luck." Do you think the average person would rob a bank and hold innocent people at gunpoint? Crime, alcoholism, drug addiction, aggressive behavior, anthropomorphism are all symptoms of emotional distress/scarring, and the reason why I chose to look up that article was not out of aggression, but out of sympathy, and in the hope you might see that you have a problem that needs addressing. I know you can't see it, but your response to my first post to you the other day about the red text was in fact an aggressive attack on me. The post I made was a simple, "did you know" informational post, yet you took it as someone trying to tell you what to do -- it was not, and the posts that followed after that from other people prove this. Sure, I responded aggressively to your posts after that, as most people would do, since it was me personally you were attacking. But then I decided to look more closely and read your last 150 posts. It was only after this that I decided to get out that book and possibly explain why you have so many confrontations with people. There used to be a TV show called, Intervention, and the people on that show experienced the same signs and symptoms with their loved ones -- aggressiveness, denial, etc. If you think I'm the only one that sees it, you're greatly mistaken. As of this morning, I had 29 PMs from people who don't want to step up and say something, because they don't know what to say to some of the things you post and they don't want you attacking them. So finally, and this will be the last post I make on the subject, you are at yet another crossroads in your life where you need to make a conscience decision. You can choose to hate me and use my posts to try and garner support from people to prove you're a victim, or you can use the information I copied to reassess your life, and perhaps take advantage of any programs available in jail to help heal your emotional wounds -- it's your choice. I can tell you that if you do seek some help, everyone that does so honestly can get helped, and when they look at their life in retrospect, afterwards, they can't believe it's actually them they're looking at. Just look at where you are right now, and try to not bring up how the "past is coming back to haunt you". What you are going to jail for is a direct consequence of your actions *today*. What was it that made you feel you had to try and run down another Human being with your car? I don't know anyone who has ever done that! Maybe you felt threatened, I don't know the whole story, but I don't have to. What I do know is, there is a 99% chance that your aggressive behavior contributed to situation making you believe that you needed to do what you did and there was no other way out. The truth shall set you free! Haven't you lived your life with enough drama already? Only you can decide whether or not to change it, but you have to be truthful with yourself. I know you don't really want all these problems in your life and you don't have to have them. All you have to do is have the desire to change... -Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Feb 3, 2013 3:07:45 GMT -6
Okay, so here's a crazy question just for the heck of it... did you adjust the timing mark to top dead center when you did the valve adjustment?
-Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Feb 2, 2013 22:50:25 GMT -6
I say, Off With His Head! ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
-Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Feb 2, 2013 21:13:17 GMT -6
Who are you talking to?
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Post by Big Guy on Feb 2, 2013 20:25:12 GMT -6
and since your the big ass shrink I'm not a "shrink"... didn't you read the credit? My degrees are in Business, Computer Science and Law. I changed majors in my 4th year. And speaking of avatars... well let's just say I'm going to guess you shouldn't talk! ;D -Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Feb 2, 2013 20:16:08 GMT -6
and since your the big ass shrink what do they say about guys who call them selves "THE BIG GUY" and has a avatar of rambo are you overcompensating for something Nope, I don't call myself that, I didn't create the nick-name, my friends did -- and the origin was because I had a big heart. And the avatar is not Rambo, it is actually me in the picture at Medieval Times. Would you like to attack anything else? Somehow I knew you wouldn't take it for what it was worth! Reread it... a few times. It's not my opinion, and the intention was for you to maybe recognize and deal with your psychosis. You do realize your behavior is not normal, right? Deal with it while you have the opportunity to! On the taxpayer's dime! Once you deal with it, all the drama will go away... -Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Feb 2, 2013 18:29:43 GMT -6
Excerpt from one of my [required reading] Psychology 1000 college books called, "The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Diary: Using Compassion-Focused Therapy to Overcome Shyness and Social Anxiety"
This excerpt is from chapter three, where Dr. Reynolds, Professor of Psychology, Columbia University, New York, discusses the signs of Overdependence, and when it is Important to seek treatment. I won't bore you with the entire article, since the conclusion sums it all up. Below is about 1/3 of Dr. Reynolds' conclusion.
============================================== Overdependence - The Human-cat Bond Disorder -Vicky Reynolds, M.D., Psychiatrist, Cognitive-Behavioral Specialist
... So, in conclusion, when do you know when a family member or friend needs to seek treatment? Is there a particular type of person that finds themselves in this predicament? In my caseload of over-attachment psychological disorder patients, there are elements that these cases all have in common. Over-attachment problems occur when many (more than three) of the elements occur together.
Common short-list of elements in over-attachment disorder cases:
•Owners are women. •Owners live alone. •Owners have been, or are on Prozac or similar psychotropic drug, or have been treated for a psychological problem, or experienced a bereavement or divorce. •Owners are anthropomorphic about their cats (refer to their cats as if they are human). Many conducted the consultation by talking to the cat rather than make eye contact with me. •Owners don't go on vacation or visit friends or family overnight because they don't want to leave their cats. •Cats are kept exclusively indoors or allowed restricted access to outdoors under supervision for reasons of 'safety'; owners worry that their cat would be exposed to unacceptable dangers if he or she were to go outside. •Many referred to themselves as being perfectionists, eager to please and desperate to do the right thing. •Lives often revolved around the daily requirements of their cat. If working, owners made incredible provisions for the wellbeing of their pet during their absence and they couldn't wait to return home to check on their 'safety'. •Most regard themselves as the savior or rescuer of the cats
It is imperative that the affected or diagnosed patient seek treatment immediately. Symptoms of this psychosis often include suicidal tendencies, atypical suicidal thoughts and behaviors that can manifest at a moment's notice, without warning. Families of the patient are usually shocked at the suicide, stating that they never realized the patient was depressed, or they never saw any signs or symptoms. In practice, the lifestyle of the affected patient was all the warning signs needed for diagnosis.
Many of my patients see life in the extreme, paranoid and delusional, thinking that the world outside their "cat-house" is closing in on them. They believe the "world is out to get them", and they will usually retreat to their 'kingdom' when challenges arise on the outside world, or in daily life. Most times, expressing to their cats (verbally, as if they were Human) all of their problems when they get home.
The affected patient is usually anti-social, at least in physical situations, or 'in-person'. They tend to shy away from social gatherings, friends and family. However, they may in fact be highly social in other non-physical environments, such as on-line media, telephone or texting. In this regard, the patient not only socializes, but does so in an aggressive and sometimes overbearing manner with the typical "don't tell me what to do" attitude. The patient will challenge anyone who challenges any of their beliefs or their psychosis, and will look for others in their social, non-personal queue to back them up (presenting innuendo as fact) that they are under attack by an imaginary aggressor. They see themselves as victims of a cruel and evil world and seek out others to come to their defense. ==============================================
Now before you take this the wrong way, I didn't spend the last 10 minutes transcribing this from the book to attack you. I did it so you can see that you might just have a problem! I don't even know you except for reading a few of your posts, and after doing so, it seems you meet all the criteria for this disorder. Hopefully you'll see that as well.
The conclusion goes on to talk about how to get help and why you will resist accepting that you do indeed have a problem in the first place. All you have to do is re-read the list of elements a few times and be honest with yourself!
My hope is that *maybe* in the coming incarceration period, you will take advantage of the psychological help available to you in jail and come out a different person. We all carry around emotional baggage, and some never have the resources to change. This incarceration can be a positive life changing experience for you *if* you want it be.
-Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Jan 15, 2012 21:30:23 GMT -6
Well is it brew for the pain? Them old Saints just fell seconds short Yeah, and I can use a rest this year! They had a great season, and with the BCS being here this year, I'm tired of all the games, parking, walking, screaming, etc. I need a rest! I would rather wait for the Saints to play in the Superbowl at the Superdome next year! Superbowl = Pats *vs* 9ers -Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Jan 15, 2012 17:51:55 GMT -6
Hey Alley,
Glad to be back... of course the brew is flowing! I live for the backyard!
-Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Jan 15, 2012 13:12:10 GMT -6
Okay, okay! I get it now!!
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Post by Big Guy on Jan 15, 2012 12:28:04 GMT -6
Thanks John! That was it!! I guess a little lube helps everywhere, especially at my age! But why in the world would anyone want to screw a screw??
-Rich
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Post by Big Guy on Jan 15, 2012 10:17:30 GMT -6
Hi Everyone, I'm new here and I thought you might be able to help! My scooter won't start!! What do I do?? -Rich
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